• Kharissa Forte

It Is Well With My Soul



I can't believe it's already December. This year has flown by so fast it almost makes my heart break. If there's anything I've learned in my 30s, it's that time really is our most precious gift. More than money. More than anything.


This year started off promising. The very first episode of The Grace & Grind Podcast came out in January. Co-hosted by my husband Wesley, listening to it now makes me cringe and laugh at the same time. We were trying so hard! We just wanted the show to be good, you know? After a few episodes, we finally found our footing and resolved that the secret to creating a good show was just being ourselves.


Then, the Chiefs won the Super Bowl. Enough said.


Later that month, we lost Ahmaud Arberry. He was jogging. None of us knew that this would be the first of many Black people to be killed while doing nothing but living their lives. We held our breath. We mourned. We tried to push through.


We all were so bright-eyed and ready to conquer the world, not realizing what was ahead of us. The pandemic hit hard and fast claiming the lives of thousands, including Wesley's grandmother.


Breonna Taylor. She was at home.


Despite the pain, we pressed on and made Grace & Grind an official business in April. It's hard to explain, but it just felt needed. A Kansas City based Black-owned, woman-owned platform felt needed. A platform that put real self-care at the forefront and where people could connect, learn, and exhale.


George Floyd. He was shopping.


I knew I found my lane when my first article in a nationally distributed magazine all about health, wellness, and self-care was published (Mantra Wellness Magazine, Summer 2020 Issue). For me, it was a sign that I was definitely on the right track with Grace & Grind. I continued to take the next steps.


David McAtee. He was cooking.


For the first time ever in my life, I saw men and women of all races all over the world stand up for Black Americans. We celebrated Juneteenth with boldness and pride. We knew a time for change was long overdue.


Rayshard Brooks. He was sleeping in his car.


Just being ourselves on the podcast seemed to work and it was paying off. Neither one of us had any clue just how well the show was received. In September, The Grace & Grind Podcast was nominated for Best Local Podcast in Kansas City at The Pitch Best of KC Awards. The announcement almost brought us to tears. We're still learning, growing, and getting better and we can't wait to bring you season two in a couple of months. It will be epic.


Jonathan Price. He was breaking up a fight.


Then, Biden and Harris. I cried all day. The conversations I had with my grandmother, my mother-in-law, and my daughter overwhelmed my soul. I try to steer clear of political conversation here on Grace & Grind, but I've come to the conclusion that it's important for people to see that not every "Christian" is a Trump supporter. And I'm going to leave that right there.


Aiden Ellison. He was playing music.


Today, I write this letter – my first of many monthly letters – with a remarkable view of the ocean from my hotel room in Gulf Shores, Alabama. It's the last day of our family vacation and I'm taking in the sights and sun for as long as I possibly can.


As I sit here, I realize that I have so much to be grateful for. A lot of bad happened in 2020, but so did a lot of good and I am grateful. I don't just live out my dreams for myself or my family. Every goal achieved is in honor of all of my brothers and sisters who won't ever be able to achieve theirs.


Say their names.



With Grace & Gratitude,





Journal Questions

  1. Despite all the bad from this year, what good things are you grateful for?

  2. What lessons will you carry with you into next year?

  3. How can you live more intentionally?

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