Here's Why You're Still Single in Kansas City
Dating during a global pandemic is tough enough, but dating in Kansas City is even harder. Bestplaces.net and AXE Bodyspray teamed up and gathered adults between the ages of18 to 24 at various venues like coffee shops, concerts, bars, and bowling alleys to find the best and worse cities for dating.
According to their study, Kansas City is literally the worst place to date in America. You would think with our thriving nightlife, multiple sports championships, and BBQ that KC would be an ideal spot to find the one – or just someone. Apparently not. The perks of the city bring abundance to the town, not to the people.
Kansas City is the largest city in Missouri, totaling 506 thousand people. For every 100 females, there are 94.5 males. Though those numbers aren't super staggering, there are still more women than men and a lot of women fear falling in love.
According to weddingreport.com, 11-thousand couples tied the knot last year. That's less than 6% of the population. With nearly 40% of Kansas City being single, the search for love is somewhat mind boggling. Either people are looking for love in all the wrong places or they're not looking at all.
COVID-19 doesn't help the situation, either. People are quarantined, trying to find or keep their jobs, and living in a constant state of anxiety. Not to mention, our state as a whole reached a record number of cases this past weekend. Love just isn't on our radar right now.
On the flip side, some people feel like the pandemic is forcing them to take things slow and actually get to know each other through meaningful conversation before meeting.
We know the pandemic won't last forever, so here are a few tips for those in Kansas City looking for love:
Always be yourself.
Now is not the time for a façade. Do you want to put your best foot forward? Of course! However, if there's anything people need right now, it's real, genuine connection and trust. Be yourself and expect that same authenticity in return.
Deal with your issues.
Looking for love or not, now is an ideal time to go ahead and get some counseling. With sites like Betterhelp and Talkspace, seeing a professional to help tackle childhood traumas, fears, and insecurities is easy, affordable, and virtual. Whether you get involved with someone now or later, regular sessions with a counselor will help ensure you bring your best self to the table.
Watch out for red flags.
Don't ignore that tug at your heart or the funny feeling in your gut. If something feels off, end it. Those feelings are meant to protect you and you don't have to wait to find out from what before deciding to move on.
About the Author
Monique Bonds is a contracted writer for Grace & Grind. She's a graduate of Langston University and is passionate about using the art of writing to help people create better lives.