Conscious Parenting: Bringing Awareness Into How We Raise Our Children
Meet Joy Cook
Joy Cook is a certified life coach and Founder of Inspiring J.O.Y., Inc. In her line of work, she helps people explore possibilities, strategies, and solutions to reset and enhance wellness in well-being, finances, and relationships. Joy's goal is to equip her clients with the clarity and confidence necessary for creating whole-life success.
Tune in as she and Grace & Grind Editor in Chief Kharissa Forte discuss life-elevating topics that will help you reset, recenter, and reclaim your JOY.
About This Episode
When it comes to conscious parenting, it's a skill that's just as much for you as it is for your child. In this episode of Conversations with Joy, Joy and Kharissa discuss conscious parenting in terms of how we subconsciously transmit negative energy to our children, the often difficult dynamic between mothers and daughters, and much more. Watch below!
Conscious parenting is...
understanding your role in guiding an individual soul towards living out his or her purpose.
being aware of how generational differences impact your child's experiences and shape your expectations.
aligning individual core values with family core values.
letting go of limiting beliefs you hold about yourself in order to fully love and accept who your child is.
refusing to attach other identities to your child's identity.
exchanging positive energy through behavior, affirmation, and collaboration.
asking, "How can I be a better mother to you?" and creating a safe space for your child to answer honestly.
realizing friendship is a necessary factor of your relationship with your child.
willing to be open enough to explore different possibilities.
healing from childhood traumas involving your own parents and taking responsibility to move forward as an adult.
knowing when to shift to a coaching style that equips your child to navigate life without you.
not allowing your role as a parent to consume your entire identity.
ensuring your child that your role as a parent isn't at risk in the event of separation or divorce.
We're not writing the narrative for our children. We show up for them as they write the narrative for themselves.
External influences have less impact when your core values are clear, communicated, and actionable.
Your family core values are the foundation of your child's ability to live authentically.
The sooner you start conscious parenting, the less likely you are to having to course correct in the future.
The energy you harbor is first transferred in the womb and continues to be transferred from parent to child throughout childhood and adolescence.
Healing requires working through resistance.
If you can't be the best you for you, then you can't be the best you for your child.
If you're a single mom, you don't have to try to also be dad and if you're a single dad, you don't have to try to also be mom. To do so is to fight a war that's beyond you.
What's your attachment style with your child?
How can you attempt to better understand your child?
In what ways have your childhood pain points and traumas caused you to parent from Ego?
What are your individual top 5 values? Your partner's? Your children?
What are your family values?
Are there any limiting beliefs you hold about yourself that have caused you to experience animosity, jealousy, or other negative emotions towards your child?
How often do you say, "I love you" to your child? To your teenager?
Ask your child, "How can I be a better mother to you?"